Surrender involves throwing away the mask. Completely. A very important element of unconditional acceptance. You cannot be accepted for what you are not. Similarly, as long as your object of love is wearing a mask (either out of choice or because of your actions) you accept “someone” else. I agree a degree of mask is necessary because of fear of being hurt through rejection and also because we do like to change based on the requirements of the object of love. All temporary changes made just to make someone fall in love with you keeps adding on masks within masks.
Putting on a mask is easy and allows us to go incognito and reduces the fear of rejection. If rejected, one can always change the mask, hide behind a new mask and try and gain acceptance. But what if you are what you are and have surrendered completely to the other person. Where do you hide if rejected ? Yes, this leads on to the next element of unconditional love – TRUST. A trust that your partner will not hurt you by rejecting you for what you are, trust that you partner will accept you unconditionally as you want to be. Reciprocal. Doesn’t work one way as it only pushes the mask-less partner back behind a mask.
When someone loves you for the mask and how you have projected yourself, you must understand that it is not the REAL YOU that is getting the benefit of love and acceptance but a projected image of yourself altered based on you perceptions of attracting that love.
Once you surrender yourself for what you are and trust that you will be accepted, you know each other as you really are. By accepting every aspect of your love’s behaviour you have learnt to look beyond the “act” and focus on the “actor”. This results in a deep level of mutual understanding that is not otherwise possible.
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